Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives when they see the
purity and reverence of your lives
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead it should be that of your inner self,
the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit,
which is of great worth in God’s sight.
For this is the way the holy women of the past, who put their hope in God, used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their husbands, like Sarah who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and
do not give way to fear.
I Peter 3: 1-6
These have been my memory verses for the past 6 weeks.
Let me say at the outset that I am preaching to myself here. I NEED these verses like you would not believe.
I actually don’t have much trouble submitting to my husband. He has earned my respect about a million times over. He is so gifted and he is patient, kind and gentle, as well as firm, moral and strong in his convictions. He amazes me. He is the true spiritual leader of our home.
Where I fall down on these first two verses is in the “winning them over without words” thing.
I am a words person.
Anyone shocked? *sound of crickets*
Part of the reason I started blogging is that I just have so much to say, and blogging was a way to put it all down “on paper” so it would stop banging around inside my skull.
So this whole “win them over without words” thing is just like speaking an alien language to me. But I’m working on it. One of the books Martin and I are reading as we prepare for disciplining our baby girl is called “Creative Correction” and one of the fun methods the author suggests for helping kids understand God’s topsy turvy morality (opposite of the world’s mentality) is to have one kid per month get to be the “family servant for the day.” The rest of the family can NOT give them orders. It is up to the servant to find ways to serve the family. This encourages creativity. It also reminds the kids what a privilege it is to serve others. I think I need to adopt this excerise for myself. I need to see myself more as a servant and find way to quietly do things for others.
Which bring me to the next thing I’m not good at: Quiet Spirit.
Oh how I want “the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit.” We all know people like that. Women who are just beautiful for no earthly reason. Usually they are older (but I’m not ageist here, I’ve seen a couple who are young who have this quality about them) and there is just something about them that defies the worldly standards of beauty. Something that transcends wrinkles, injuries, imperfections. And when you spend time with them, inevitably they are the ones that constantly have genuine praise for our Savior on their lips. They are filled with love for God and an unshakeable surety of His love for them.
I honestly think that is the key. Do you recall that glow you got when you first knew you were loved by the man that you love? That silent, proud, almost secret smile that would overtake you in the middle of the work day when you think of him or something special he said to you recently? Now, try to wrap your brain around this: God loves you, personally. Way more than your husband does.
The Creator of the Universe adores you. He is aching to shower you with gifts. He is just hopping up and down at the very idea that you might decide to spend your lunch break with Him, quietly reading His letters written for you.
If we could dive in and be surrounded by that surety on a continual basis, we would glow. We would exude the quiet confidence of a woman who knows beyond all doubt that she is beloved.
So don’t worry about your hair cut, your clothing style or all the externals. Take care of the body God has given you, certainly. But don’t fret about it. Ultimately what makes a woman beautiful is knowing that she is beloved of God.